tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post1897489187946495103..comments2023-10-12T08:52:07.014-07:00Comments on Two Kids and a Fish: When tragedy hits my ex's family: What's my place?Buy Me Dinnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-77813300732299021572011-03-09T18:45:10.898-08:002011-03-09T18:45:10.898-08:00MOSD: No strained relationships (so far), in fact,...MOSD: No strained relationships (so far), in fact, they've been very supportive and understanding. Thanks for your feedback! <br /><br />Kelly: You're absolutely right. They'll change if you allow them to change. Thanks, chica. :)Buy Me Dinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-87274273661179294502011-03-08T18:37:39.678-08:002011-03-08T18:37:39.678-08:00Things only change if you want and allow them to c...Things only change if you want and allow them to change. You will always be family because you share a common bond and always will, your girls. Just because you couldn't live with their son doesn't mean you care about them any less and it is ok to tell them so.Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-42537067368382174762011-03-08T09:26:27.671-08:002011-03-08T09:26:27.671-08:00Personally, I'd say that's between you and...Personally, I'd say that's between you and (in this case) his dad. You had a relationship with his father independent of you marrying his son. It's natural for you to be concerned about his health and well-being in this case. Had you not really had much of a relationship or had a strained relationship with his parents, then your role would be limited to "cooperative co-parent". I don't think anyone should be allowed to give you crap for being concerned and for caring about someone even if a relationship that bonded you to that person failed. Your ties were more than your ex.Memoirs of a Single Dadhttp://www.memoirsofasingledad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-62340824083176477612011-03-08T08:19:41.682-08:002011-03-08T08:19:41.682-08:00Thank you, Kathy. You've been an amazing frien...Thank you, Kathy. You've been an amazing friend and I love you dearly.Buy Me Dinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-43743901764453664002011-03-08T08:19:31.679-08:002011-03-08T08:19:31.679-08:00Thank you, Carrie. All good things to consider. In...Thank you, Carrie. All good things to consider. In regards to #2, I was and still am very close to his family especially my sister-in-laws, and nieces and nephews. This made the decision to leave him even harder. I'll be honest, it delayed my decision.Buy Me Dinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-51242035139686340802011-03-08T04:27:08.082-08:002011-03-08T04:27:08.082-08:00My prayers are with your father-in-law, and with y...My prayers are with your father-in-law, and with you and the girls as you await news of his recovery. Though life has thrown this new curve your way, I'm confident you will handle it with your usual grace, dignity and determination to do the right thing. Sending healing thoughts your way.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04835125306030123780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-28416789716700289402011-03-07T21:28:06.381-08:002011-03-07T21:28:06.381-08:00There is no right or wrong way when it comes to di...There is no right or wrong way when it comes to divorce and ex-family, though you do need to make sure you respect your ex's wishes here. I know that can be really hard if he wants you to have nothing to do with them and you want to still have a connection. But just like you married into his family, now you are divorcing out. <br /><br />Here are a few things to consider:<br /><br />1) Do you want your ex to carry on a relationship with your family?<br />2) Has your marriage ended on a note where you still get along and so do the remaining family members?<br />3) What are your ex's wishes--remember it is his family, not yours, no matter how much you may love and care for them.<br />4) This one is for the future--How will your new Husband (assuming there is another one day) feel about your ties to your ex and your past?<br /><br />It's hard moving forward but in divorce all things get split up--money, homes, belongings, friends and family.<br /><br />Good luck to you.<br /><br />~Carrie<br />http://daytodaywoman.comCarrie Dahlehttp://daytodaywoman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-67770736003425113812011-03-07T20:54:09.359-08:002011-03-07T20:54:09.359-08:00DP, Mandy - Thank you very much. I took the lil on...DP, Mandy - Thank you very much. I took the lil one to see him earlier tonight and went grocery shopping with my mother-in-law. I just let her talk and express herself however, whenever she wanted. It was really nice.Buy Me Dinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-76384898621686272392011-03-07T16:28:32.878-08:002011-03-07T16:28:32.878-08:00Hope your father-in-law is recovering well.
There...Hope your father-in-law is recovering well.<br /><br />There is no protocol for a soon-to-be-ex-daughter-in-law and if there was I'd tell you to ignore it. Your in-laws may be looking for guidance from you and you can make it clear that you love them, you value their friendship and still want them to be in your life as well as the lives of your children.<br /><br />I know it isn't always as simple as that but hopefully they'll avoid choosing sides.<br /><br />I think you went along way in setting the tone for your future relationship by initiating the contact about your FIL and I bet your MIL truly appreciated that.Mandyhttp://sincemydivorce.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-37305461741074300622011-03-07T07:56:32.991-08:002011-03-07T07:56:32.991-08:00That's rough. I am so sorry that you've be...That's rough. I am so sorry that you've been out of the loop. Divorce is tough and I hope that you'll make it out okay :-)<br /><br />-DP<br /><a href="http://www.pregnancybaby411.com" rel="nofollow">Hip Chick's Guide to PMS, Pregnancy, and Babies</a>DPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03104829678260186477noreply@blogger.com