tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post705576684837563957..comments2023-10-12T08:52:07.014-07:00Comments on Two Kids and a Fish: Will my nest be half empty soon?Buy Me Dinnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-83402860892959076422011-08-25T14:09:49.436-07:002011-08-25T14:09:49.436-07:00Thank you so much for your comments. Although I...Thank you so much for your comments. Although I'm still freaking out, I'm very grateful that she sat down and talked to me about this instead of "announcing" her decision. As of now, she hasn't made her decision but she's changed her status to "Engaged" on Facebook. If you need me, I'll be in the corner hyperventilating into a paper bag...Buy Me Dinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043077751478614270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-29192868957979853312011-08-24T09:47:13.926-07:002011-08-24T09:47:13.926-07:00O.M.G.
I would have freaked out too. Just imagin...O.M.G. <br /><br />I would have freaked out too. Just imagining my soon-to-be-10-year-old telling me this in 10+ years made me nauseous. If only we could give them all that we've learned since we were in our early 20's!!!!<br /><br />Wow... so much to think about but so awesome that she feels comfortable enough to talk to you about it. Just continue to listen and support. Hold her hand. She'll be fine.<br /><br />((HUGS)) to you!!!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-47085485875866328102011-08-24T04:26:47.034-07:002011-08-24T04:26:47.034-07:00I'm an old lady now, but have made similar pro...I'm an old lady now, but have made similar pronouncements to my mom, oh, two or three or four times over the last decades - and until now I didn't/haven't spend much time considering her reaction. Thank you for giving me that! (And your daughter either does or will appreciate your outwardly-appearing cool head!)redheadstepmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-60082026011436459282011-08-23T17:31:45.988-07:002011-08-23T17:31:45.988-07:00Maybe tell her to read this:
http://dailyplateofc...Maybe tell her to read this:<br /><br />http://dailyplateofcrazy.com/2011/07/31/hidden-costs-of-cohabitation-relationship-options-marriage-alternatives/<br /><br />And then have her read this (so she realizes how important it is for regular communication about all sorts of logistics - preferably writing things down and agreeing to them!)<br /><br />http://www.huffingtonpost.com/d-a-wolf/could-marital-report-card_b_926195.html<br /><br />(No kidding.)<br /><br />And I think you did great, too...BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-68857331371200717582011-08-23T11:52:25.199-07:002011-08-23T11:52:25.199-07:00Let her get out there and do her thing. She needs...Let her get out there and do her thing. She needs to learn reality and this may be the best way to do it. Of course, my answer may change when it's my daughter...JR Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11146569846681605073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-62403735327271321192011-08-23T03:53:04.031-07:002011-08-23T03:53:04.031-07:00I agree with SingleMamma - your daughter seems to ...I agree with SingleMamma - your daughter seems to have a good head on her shoulders and she has you to thank for that!<br /><br />I can't imagine how you must be feeling - it MUST be frightening, but it sounds to me that you can have faith in the knowledge you've given her, what she has learned from your experiences and her own instincts.<br /><br />I'd also agree that it's important to talk to her about the idea of counseling - remove the stigma. It's not a tool to be used only once something has gone wrong, but one that can teach a young (or any!) couple healthy communication skills.<br /><br />And most importantly, I'd stress to her that there's no shame in asking for help if she finds she needs it.<br /><br />I think you'll both do great, but I completely understand the freak-out. She's your baby! You're entitled :).Iron Spine Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08099596650589366194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-55717753188021595662011-08-23T02:19:18.509-07:002011-08-23T02:19:18.509-07:00I could not wait to move out when I graduated from...I could not wait to move out when I graduated from high school. That being said I never wanted to live with a boyfriend. I wanted my freedom even while being in relationships. My mother called me every day those first weeks which I thought was nuts. <br /><br />I am preparing for my daughter to move away as soon as she turns 18 or stay until when ever whatever she wants to do. She is committed to going to college.<br /><br />She also is committed to saving herself. She does not want to have her heart broken or become a mom before she is ready. <br /><br />I meet all the boyfriends and like my mother I pray. So far they have been decent. Her dad and I have a sordid past which she knows all about. She's seen relationships done wrong. Her step sisters have kids now and irresponsible boyfriends.<br /><br />Next I have to talk to her about taking a potential partner to a counselor to let someone with insight speak over and into the relationship. <br /><br />I hope her faith really takes off before too much longer and then she can pray for herself. I know God has an amazing husband for her out there. One who will match her needs as a girl born into a broken home who's heart has always longed for her father to be the man he should have been.<br /><br />We need to expect BIG things from the Lord not just whatever happens to find us.SingleMamma4Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15408714244165866932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7457667854314211626.post-7396355566102201632011-08-23T00:06:08.519-07:002011-08-23T00:06:08.519-07:00Oh.My.God I would've freaked out too!!! Totall...Oh.My.God I would've freaked out too!!! Totally!! (I'm not helping here, am I? Sorry....). <br /><br />I think you handled it very well, actually. You were wise to explain to her the 'reality' of what living together means. And I definitely agree with your policy: he wants her to move in with him, he's gotta shoulder all the responsibilities that come with it also! <br /><br />So are we going to hear about what's her final decision going to be? My daughter's only seven and already I'm dreading the day that she would leave for college! I'm definitely at a loss here! But I commend you for having acted and done as you had! Oh goodness... at times like that, we *really* feel like a mom, huh?Sweatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886118636402604168noreply@blogger.com